Best marriage advice ever
by a dad to his son. This is gold!
When I consider what type of advice is the best
to give, I have to say marriage advice. Why? Because your spouse is who you
spend your entire life with. They are the ones who endure every hardship,
failure and struggle with you. They are by your side for success, growth and
blessings. You lean on each other, rely on each other and make a life together.
A marriage is a partnership
and if you nurture it, it can be the most powerful thing in your life. It can
give you comfort and hope and stability when the rest of the world can not.
WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A
SON ABOUT MARRIAGE.
My son, if you keep
spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and
she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.
My son, a woman could be a
good wife to you, some could be a good mother to your children but if you’ve
found a woman like a mother to you, your children and your family, please don’t
let her go.
My son, don’t confine the
position of your wife to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our
days, we had farm-lands where they worked every morning . . . that was our
office.
My son, if I tell you that
you’re the head of the house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will see a
smile on your wife’s face.
My son, if you want to have
a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult
for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if
it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even
when all has been spent.
My son, don’t ever beat
your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be compared to the wound on her
heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a wounded woman.
My son, now that you’re
married, if you live a bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be
single again.
My son, in our days, we had
many wives and many children because of our large farm-lands and many harvests,
there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.
My son, under the big tree
that I did meet your mother could be your eateries and restaurants of nowadays,
but remember, the closet thing we did there was to embrace each other.
My son, don’t be carried
away when you start making more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs
that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that woman that
stood by you all along.
My son, when I threw little
stones or whistled at the window of your mother father’s house, to call her
out, it was not for sex, it was because I missed her so much.
My son, remember, when you
say your wife has changed, there could be something you’ve stopped doing too.
My son, your mother, she
rode the bicycle with me before I bought that tortoise car outside there, any
woman that won’t endure with you in your little beginning should not enjoy your
riches.
My son, don’t compare your
wife to any woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever
compared you to any man?
My son, there is this thing
you people call feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal right with you
in the house, divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask
her to start paying the other part.
My son, I met your mother a
virgin and I took more yams to her father, if you don’t meet your wife a
virgin, don’t blame her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.
My son, I didn’t send your
sisters to school because I was foolish like many to think a female child won’t
extend my family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of female
achievers I see nowadays has made the male-gender an ordinary tag.
My son, your mother have
once locked up the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because she was
angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that
I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your mother.
My son, in our days, our
women had more of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor
painting of their appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you people now
call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t expose any part of their body
like your women of nowadays.
My son, your mother and I
are not interested in what happens in your marriage, try to handle issues
without always coming to us.
My son, remember I bought
your mother’s first sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams
just as you’re pursuing yours.
My son, don’t stop taking
care of me and your mother, it’s a secret of growing old and having children to
take care of you too.
My son, pray with your
family, there is a tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that knows everything,
everyday.
